I started this post as "Your Identity as a Woman of God" because, a lot of what I have to say relates to some thoughts I've been having lately about womanhood and recent social issues within the LDS church. But I think what I really have found is that it's a lot less about which gender does blank and gets blank and is better at blank. Life is a lot more about each unique individual than it is about putting groups or genders into boxes and defining them. Life is about you.
It's really easy to want to quantify everything. To define people and genders. Men bring home bacon, women cook in pearls and high heels. Let's keep it simple, right? But, you know, I love me some bacon. Why can't I bring it home? I have the "right", don't I?
It's not even that simple.
I've realized it's not about who has the "right" to do what. Or who "deserves" something because of who they are or what their gender is. I've come to learn that we have to stop making lists and stop trying to figure out how this is all supposed to work.
I am Elise. Currently, I work at a marketing and design firm. I really love what I do. It's a lot of what I'm passionate about. When I don't need to actively be thinking about something else, my brain defaults to design. That defines me. In a dream world, I would be a stay-at-home mom who gets paid for doodling while the kids are asleep. That's what I want to be doing with my life. That defines me.
I belong to the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I am a Utah State Aggie Alumni. I live in Cache Valley, Utah. I eat more double stuf oreos and bacon than your average dietitian would ever recommend. Those things define me.
I also have acne. And insecurities about it. And sometimes people ask me if I'm a burn victim because of the acne scarring on my face. Those things don't define me. (Though, it takes a considerable amount of work to keep that mind set.)
And that's my point. Who you are, your identity, is up to you. I can tell you this one fact right now: you are a child of God. Because of that, you have worth. You have value. You have an identity and a purpose. But you get to find that out, even define it, for yourself. Stop worrying about how to be the perfect, pinterest-worthy mom. Stop trying to fit the mold of the buff, dreamy, every girl wants you guy. Figure out who you, uniquely, are and be that.
Choose what you want to define you. Rely on the things that do define you. Let yourself acknowledge your value and the worth that comes from defining yourself as a child of God. Start there and figure out how you want everything else to fit in.