Thursday, May 16, 2013

are you happy?

Are you happy?
I mean, seriously. Not in a "Hey, how's it going?" "Good, how are you?" kind of a way. I mean, really, are you happy?

Why or why not?
What makes you happy? What is keeping you from feeling happy? Why aren't you doing anything about it?

Potentially the greatest lesson I have learned this far in life is that trials are mandatory, but misery is optional. Whenever something happens, you get to choose if you want to be upset about it or not. You have no obligation to be upset, so why would you choose that?

Happiness is a choice.
Once you accept that as truth, it will completely change your perspective on life. Your happiness is not dependent on who you're dating, what job you have, what grades you are getting, or how much money is in your wallet. Your happiness depends completely upon you and your desires. Who doesn't desire to be happy?

So, what's holding you back?
I am always happier when my room is clean and my laundry is all put away. But, you know what? I constantly have a pile of clean laundry overflowing from my basket just waiting to be folded. And I usually wear it before it gets put away. But I know that I'm happier when my room is clean, so why don't I do it?

I think there are a lot of things that can hold us back. Laziness is a big one for me. Being busy, putting other things first, and sometimes I honestly think I hold myself back because it puts me in control. Somehow, by not doing laundry I'm taking control of my life in a sort of rebellious way. (Maybe I'm weird in thinking that way? Maybe I should just put away my laundry and rebel with pink hair again? ;)

Do it. Be happy.
It's completely in your control. You know what makes you happy, you know what doesn't make you happy. You know that, ultimately, you have complete control over your happiness in spite of (and even sometimes because) of any trials or hard things you may be going through. So, do it. Be happy. And maybe you're not sure you can do it, maybe you feel uncomfortable with trying? There is something to be said for faking it until you make it. Start with a smile. Maybe just while you're driving alone in your car. Smile the whole ride home and see how that makes you feel. Or wake up and decide then that you're going to have a good day. I'm not saying you have to be perfect at being happy, just that you have the power to try.
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